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The Elder-Boomer Buzz, Issue #011 -- The Tao of Caregiving
October 20, 2009

Issue #11
The Tao of Caregiving

Iíve heard life described in terms of doing battle, thereís a war out there, life is a struggle, times are hard, life is suffering, everybody has problems, I never promised you a rose garden.

A matter of perspective. All of those statements infer resistance. To What Is, as they say. Resistance to inevitable changes that may occur at any moment. In caregiving, whether with kids, with someone who is ill, or with the elderly, the unexpected is the name of the game. Changes, and we never know what and when, will continually happen. And if we do not just simply Accept as we go along, if we resist, we get ourselves into a whole lot of mental and emotional hassle, even pain. If we Accept, there is nothing to fight, nothing to do battle with, nothing to struggle with, to expect or to suffer over. What happens is not good or bad, it just is. Acceptance does not mean doing nothing or acting like a wimp. Itís just a certain way of thinking, a perspective, staying at peace while we take steps to do what we can.

This is the Way of Caregiving. I call it the Tao of Caregiving. According to Webster (online), Tao means Ö the unconditional and unknowable source and guiding principle of all reality Ö the process of nature by which all things change and which is to be followed for a life of harmony.

I like that -- The process of nature by which all things change. To be followed. For harmony. Iíve been pondering this concept of resistance to what is, a lot lately. Caregiving could be perceived as stressful. As causing burnout. Or depression. But why? If we Accept, and also learn to set up small getaways and oases, to seek help and accept help, to simplify, to find balance, then caregiving can be a most rewarding experience. Think of the words. Care. Giving. Two of the most wonderful words in our language, put together. And that is the bottom line. Isnít that ultimately what weíre down here to do? And to find things to smile about too.

Which leads me to some more fun stuff Ė have you seen our new activities yet? Check out the latest additions to our page on Really Easy Apple Craft Ideas. And our newest activities page about ever-popular mouse themes, at Mini Mouse Crafts Ė Amusing and Easy.

Visit our web site for lots more great articles for baby boomers and seniors at www.elder-one-stop.com.

The best to you,

Mary

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